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Seeking Wisdom, Day 31 – A Matter of Discernment

March 28, 2016

Choices: we make them with discernment, using our ability to discriminate, distinguish, and discover. We pray we have used our wisdom to make the right decisions. No where is discernment more important than in the selection of a mate. Solomon has devoted many verses to the subject, but Lemuel devoted most of the last chapter in Proverbs to his sons – ignoring the fairer sex of course, for the choice was not hers.

Lemuel, the king, reached out to  his sons about the attributes necessary in a good wife. While some of the requirements sound anachronistic today, the life-scripts behind them are important considerations for a son’s (or daughter’s) future happiness.

If the suggestions seem obsolete and outdated – well, they are, for wives need no longer arise at dawn to prepare food, spin wool and flax, plan work for the servants (dream on), inspect the fields, plant a vineyard, and make garments. But she should be clothed in dignity (and have a sense of humor, honesty, integrity and intelligence). She is kind and wise, and her children (and in-laws) will bless her.

In Proverbs 31: 10, King Lemuel writes, “Who can find a virtuous woman?, for her price is far above rubies.” In 31: 30, he continues, “Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman (or man) who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

The TV serial, The Good Wife, is not an oxymoron, for in order to be a good wife, a woman needs a good husband: one who is kind, supporting, loyal, a faithful friend and companion. A good husband is desired by every virtuous wife. How she chooses him and he chooses her is a matter of discernment.

When a good wife and good husband mate, their relationship deepens with time. When they include God in their relationship, they are indeed blessed, for their wisdom is great.  A marriage is a lifetime commitment. May our sons  and grandsons, daughters and granddaughters  use discernment to woo and win a ruby wife or a sapphire husband, set in gold with diamonds and love.



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